How to Tell if He’s Good in Bed Before You See Him Naked

September 20, 2012

You’re back in the dating scene and you’ve met a nice guy. He’s nice looking, the conversations are great, you have lots in common, and he treats you well.

But the mystery question still lingers: Is he good in bed?

Perhaps your conversations have hinted in that direction, but of course, every guy likes to project the best of himself and every man will admit to having a high sex drive and being quite gifted in that department.

Of course, only you can be the judge of that. He really has no comparison to other men.

So can you make a good assumption if a man is truly talented in teasing and titillation?

Listen to the way he talks about food: If a man can fully describe tastes and textures, it means he’s really paying attention to his senses. Can he pick out a number of layers and flavors in a craft beer, or does he just guzzle down a Bud light? Can he pick up a distinctive tang and creaminess in an artisan blue cheese or is he just content with dipping his hot wings in a blue cheese dressing that gets pumped out of a gallon container without a thought?

Does he have an eye for art? An ear for music?: Again, it’s all about the senses. Does he have a painting, photograph or sculpture that sets a tone in his living room? Or does he have a “Scarface” movie poster that hangs above his 50-inch flat screen TV? Does he shake and bang his head to Metallica or can he dissect the distinct time signatures in Dave Brubeck’s “Take Five”? Better yet, how does he follow music – and you – when he dances?

The eyes have it: Does he look you in the eyes when the two of you are talking? Does he hang onto your every word? Is he truly interested in what you have to say? Does he look at you in an admiring way even if you’re not putting it out there or not dressed to the nines? If he’s not paying attention to what you’re saying … or not saying … he won’t be paying attention to you when words aren’t quite as involved. Also, a man who’s good in bed will be able to seduce you just by looking at you by never breaking eye contact.

Those innocent touches: We’re not talking about the sneaky gropes and fondles, especially in public. It’s in the way he’ll hold or touch your hand from across a table while sipping coffee or over a glass of wine. It’s in the way a light goodnight kiss will linger on the lips for barely over a moment … and make the surface just above your skin tingle even after he’s walked back out to his car.

Picking up these cues ahead of time may ward off that awkward moment after things get (less than) intimate.

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Bonnie Caprara

Bonnie Caprara is the director of Public Relations at Urbane Media. Her career has traversed between print journalism and media relations in the agency world and for private clients. She's also a semi-serious foodie with a penchant for Cheetos.

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  • Pervman

    i like to masturbate to this post